Lately, I’ve been in a slump. (clearly evident as I have not posted anything in months)
Getting clobbered by the overwhelming midterm exam schedule, as well as slowly losing my sanity, and seemingly always being in a “Negative Nancy” mindset, I came to a sudden realization of what I was doing that has put me in this slump.
1. Don’t be afraid to say no. This is something I struggle with, as I am a typical people pleaser. I hate the feeling of not being able to help someone when they need it, but after a certain point, they will grow to assume that you will always be there and take advantage of this.
2. Help others but help yourself first. Lately, I’ve been allowing myself to forget my own problems and seeking refuge in helping others in theirs. Though it may be a good escape from your own realities for a bit, you will have to eventually return and fight your battles, and at that point, you’ll have less time to do it. And there is never enough time.
3. Be you. Not everyone will like you for who you are, that’s just life. Don’t let these people dictate how you live your life. And never change yourself for others, no matter how much you want to. It’s not worth it in the end.
4. Voice your opinions. The worst thing in the world is to bottle up your anger. Tell that person that they’re getting on your nerves, or whatever issue you may be going through. Talking through it will definitely resolve the situation a lot faster than building up hate ever will.
5. Choose your battles. Fight for things that mean something to you. Don’t bother wasting your time on the others.
6. Surround yourself with people who make you happy. There is no point in being around people that will always put a frown on your face, remove yourself from these situations and find people who hate to see you with that frown.
7. Be appreciative. There’s nothing I hate most than people who do not appreciate what others do for them. Be grateful, be humble.
But, it’s always easier said than done.
taken from Thought Catalog
When we love without expecting anything back, we try. At least we try; there’s always that. When we love without expecting anything back, we put ourselves out there and stand in the spotlight, even if it seems like we’re walking on a fragile tightrope half the time, wondering if this will be the moment we slip or fall. And then we muse that it doesn’t really matter. What’s the point of hiding? What do we really gain?
When we love without expecting anything back, we don’t ruminate on the fact that they are not in love with us, that their emotional dispositions do not align with ours, that we seem to care just a bit more, which is reflected in our persistence. They don’t initiate delicate, sweet prose, and dole out complimentary thoughts. They’re not messaging us lyrics from an obscure, yet moving, song, like we do – we’re curious if the words brighten up their morning, or on a deeper level, resonate something more. But of course, they don’t read in between the lines. Leave that romanticism to our end of the ether connection.
When we love without expecting anything back, we don’t mind their flaws or their difficulties or their past mistakes, because we want all of them anyway, entirely whole. We wear our hearts on our sleeves; we give ourselves, we convey our honesty, and for that, we’ve done enough. Actually, we’ve done more than enough; we’ve erased the chance for regrets, for those pesky ‘what if’s within our own frame of mind.
When we love without expecting anything back, we allow ourselves to authentically be, and we invite vulnerability to strongly take its place alongside of us. We pine, we yearn, we smile, we miss, we cry – all in the name of being human. And to still feel how we feel and share those feelings? Why, that’s nothing to shudder at or be ashamed about. That’s f***ing brave. That’s bold. That’s the antithesis of fear.